Late 20s chronicles: I’m 28 and don’t have a house and a Benz!
At 18 when asked “where do you see yourself in 10 years”, the young naive High School girl I was did not picture my life as it is today. I thought I would be married, living in a huge house with kids and a few cars in the garage. TUH! Oh, and I also thought I would be working for ABC news, or producing 2020.
So much has happened over the past 10 years, my life, attitude, and goals have completely changed. I’m not where I thought I would be, but I also don’t want the same things. It’s funny to me how at 18 I thought I knew it all. It has been a long journey and I look back and realize I was on the right track, but was not thinking big enough. Let's get into it.
The House and Whips:
At 18, I lived in North Carolina. I don’t know where I planned on buying that house I was dreaming of (Still not sure) but I currently live in an apartment in Brooklyn New York. I love the New York lifestyle, I feel like it is a city for dreamers and hustlers. I love the fast pace, the diversity, culture and well…the shopping! I was born here so moving back just felt like coming home. One day, maybe I will hang up my city life and settle down in a suburban house…or maybe not.
And as much as I would like to wake up in a new Bugatti, that is just not realistic for my life right now lol. But me and Uber drivers have become well acquatinted.
I knew I wanted to work in Television, but for some reason I thought news. Possibly because, as a teenager going to school in a small town, working in news felt obtainable. Even in West BubbleF**k there are news stations. I went to college and did some news channel internships and was BORED OUT OF MY MIND. Then I tried interning at talk shows…again felt a little more obtainable. It wasn’t until years later that I realized I want to write episodic television and films. It has been a journey, and now I am making some turns along the way that change my path but I’m excited to have clear goals and to finally know exactly what I want.
I have been fortunate enough to work steadily freelancing in television production; ironically I am currently on a drama series for ABC…so I guess 10 years ago I was partially right. HaHa!
My dreams only consisted of me working for someone else, as I grew up and changed my way of thinking and realized I don’t have to spend my life working for someone else’s idea, I can create my own ish! Not to get all Dame Dash, but I don’t have to call someone Daddy...I mean boss! I want to now focus more on my own projects, and get my Shonda on! I can not complain about my career thus far, it is a challenge for black women to even get their foot in the door so I am proud to be here, and know I'm not going anywhere.
The Husband and Kids:
Ummm Currently, #TeamBachelorette but we’ll talk more about that in another post! Overall I'm having fun and I have a gang of nieces + a nephew to kick it with.
I am still proud of my 18 - year old self for not dreaming small. I still don’t have ALL the answers Sway, but I’m growing and learning daily and enjoying the journey. If you change your goals and life plans, don’t be discouraged it’s never too late. As long as you are above ground and breathing you can chase whatever dream you choose.
How have your goals changed since your teenage years?